The power to choose yourself

Why staying true to yourself is both radical and healing.

For me, this week was marked by a single, profound mantra: I choose myself.

And that may sound simple – but it isn't. Because choosing yourself often means letting go of other people's expectations. Setting boundaries. Saying no. Not playing along. Pushing yourself to your limits. Feeling yourself, even if it's uncomfortable.

I used to go through days where my system screamed loudly: Make everyone else happy. Function. Hang in there.

And at the same time there was a quiet, powerful voice inside me that said:

Stay true to yourself. You can choose. You are enough.

This voice isn't new. It's always been there. But it's often been overshadowed—by conditioning, fear, guilt, duty. By the longing to be loved, even if I lose myself in the process.

But I have learned:

If I don't vote for myself, I vote myself out.

And that is the greatest betrayal I can do to myself.

Today I know: I'm not selfish when I feel myself. I'm alive.

I'm not difficult when I stand up for myself. I'm clear.

I'm not too much. I'm just right.

Choosing yourself is an act of self-love.

An act of healing.

An act of freedom.

And that's exactly what I wish for you as you read this text. That today—amidst all the hustle and bustle, all the roles, all the voices—you quietly and powerfully remember:

You can choose yourself. Again and again. Every day.

Reflection questions – for your inner compass

Take a moment and feel inside yourself:

• When was the last time I consciously decided for myself?

• In which situations do I get lost most often – and why?

• What would I do if I were radically honest with myself today?

• What voice inside me wants to be heard – but I keep ignoring it?

• How does it feel to choose me – physically, emotionally, mentally?

You don't have to change anything. It's enough if you start looking.

Mini-exercise: The sentence that stays

Close your eyes briefly.

Breathe in and out deeply.

Let the noise of the day quiet down for a moment.

Then ask yourself the following question:

“What do I really need today – from myself?”

Write down the answer. Without censorship.

One sentence is enough.

For example:

“I need gentleness today.”

“I need space today.”

“I need clarity today.”

Write this sentence on a piece of paper and take it with you throughout the day.

Every time you feel yourself getting lost, pause. Read the sentence. And remember:

You can choose yourself. Again and again.

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