INDEPENDENCE – THE QUIETEST FORM OF STRENGTH

A plea for inner freedom, self-respect and the courage to stay true to yourself

I recently read a post that portrayed independent women as emotionally distant, career-focused, and incapable of real intimacy.

A post that suggests:

Those who don’t have children have decided against closeness.

Those who are independent have no room for love.

And those who are successful compensate for an inner deficiency.

What a relapse! A reversion to an image of women from a time we should have left behind long ago.

Because such statements are not spiritual.

They are simply disrespectful.

They deny women any depth – and any story.

Many women carry alone.

In relationships, as single parents, without a partner, without parents, without a network.

Not because they cannot love.

But because they were left alone. Emotionally. Mentally. Physically.

Not out of “coldness,” but out of courage.

Many women have wanted children –

but it was not possible for health or mental reasons.

Many people wanted a relationship –

but there was a lack of emotional availability.

Not with them. But with the people who faced them.

And yes, many men still cannot find true access to their feelings.

And this is not an individual problem –

This is a collective trauma that spanned generations.

True independence doesn't begin with money. And it doesn't begin with a career.

It begins the moment you feel:

I no longer wait for a message to feel whole.

I stay with myself, even if others cannot be with me.

I no longer allow myself to be defined – not by love, not by rejection.

Independence means:

– Stop betraying yourself emotionally.

– Stop belittling yourself in order to be loved.

– Taking responsibility for yourself – and also for where it ends.

This independence is not a defensive reaction.

It is not a cold retreat.

It is not a career replacement.

It is an inner home.

Quiet. Clear. True.

If you often feel dependent –

of opinions, of recognition, of the question: “Am I enough?” –

then I invite you to begin your path to your inner freedom.

Not loud. Not radical.

But in small, honest steps – towards you.

 

✨Questions for reflection:

🔸In which moments do you abandon yourself in order to be loved?

🔸What or who is currently determining your sense of worth?

🔸How would your life feel if you no longer had to explain yourself?

 

🕊️Mini-Exercise: Back to you

Sit down. Place one hand on your heart.

Close your eyes. Breathe.

And then ask yourself quietly:

“What do I really need right now – from myself?”

Write down the answer.

Not for others. For you.

Your self. Your freedom. Your life.

I AM A WOMAN.