Back to femininity

For a long time, femininity was something I associated with conformity, weakness, or reserve. Perhaps because that's how I was taught. Because strength in this world is often confused with loudness, dominance, and performance. But true femininity is not a weakness. It is a force—quiet, gentle, deep, intuitive, wild.

Today I'm writing this text for all the women who want to feel themselves again. Who feel like they've lost themselves. For all those who want to reclaim their feminine energy—after years of functioning, fighting, and enduring.

1. Femininity is not a cliché, but a feeling

Femininity has nothing to do with clothes, makeup, or social roles. Femininity is an inner home. A state. A connection to ourselves, to our bodies, our intuition, our emotions.

2. We have learned to function – not to feel

Many of us were raised to be strong. Not to cry. To have everything under control. But the truth is: We aren't made to just achieve. We are made to live. To receive. To surrender. To feel life – with our skin, heart, and mind.

3. Femininity is also anger. And clarity. And boundaries.

Being feminine doesn't mean always being nice. It means making room—even for a clear no. For anger. For boundaries.

Setting boundaries has often been discouraged from us. We learned early on to please everyone, not to be "bitchy," to please. But every woman has the right to have her own boundaries—regardless of whether the other person likes them or not.

This boundary can be named, felt and defended.

Just as our children must learn to say "stop," we adults must also learn to stand up for ourselves. And that is a profoundly feminine skill: protecting ourselves.

4. Femininity is respect for one’s own experiences

Being feminine also means accepting yourself – and more importantly, respecting yourself.

Not despite everything we have experienced, but because of everything.

Our bodies carry our history. Pregnancy and childbirth, in particular, are a time when the female body experiences something primal and powerful—pain, strength, depth, and creation.

This deserves not a look of shame, but of awe.

Our bodies are not objects – they are biographies.

5. Intuition – our inner compass

There is something within us that is often not logically explainable, but is profoundly true.

A feeling. A subtle perception of what isn't being said.

This intuition is not esoteric – it is an evolutionary gift.

She reveals herself quietly. And she's always right.

We just have to learn to trust her again.

6. Femininity is a path – not a destination

There's no checklist for femininity. But there are moments when you remember what it feels like to be fully present. In your breath. In your laughter. In your depth. In your boundaries. In your dignity.

Coaching impulse:

In my I AM WOMAN mentoring we work on exactly this:

🔶Let go of old patterns.

🔶Feeling your own body as home again.

🔶Set boundaries without being harsh.

🔶Become soft without giving up.

🔶Experience femininity as a source of strength – not as a burden.

If you feel that you are ready to feel yourself again, I would be happy to accompany you on your journey.

In conclusion:

Maybe you've forgotten it. Maybe it was trained out of you. But your femininity was never gone.

She's just waiting for you to remember.